The next part the fight is on!

[WalkingMan]

At some point, you have to decide if things are beyond the point of no return. Things can turn around.

Or not.

When things got to a point for me I decided that I would play nice and not stir the pot. I kept quiet about where I was with the divorce and what I had in my back pocket. She had no idea what hit her. As it turned out, this was the best strategy as but the time the D was final, I came out on top with less debt and I was able to retain the same or better quality of life than I had when I was married.

She on the other hand was strapped with a lot of debt and saw a significant lowering of her standard of living. I was polite and considerate; I left her alone and made it easy...it could have gotten very ugly considering the info I had.

I moved on and have a great job, travel and have a new wonderful woman in my life that is now the beneficiary of all the changes I made in my life. My XW, now supports and lives with her unemployed OM and has bill collectors calling. She made these decisions and must live with them.

What I am saying is make the best of your situation. Be careful about stirring the pot. What's best for you and your children?