K - I am so sorry you have going through this - sexual addiction is insidious. The Carnes books have been very helpful to me. I agree with Snodderly - center yourself first to ensure your own strength through the situation.
Definitely praying for you.
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time