Right now STBXH has the kids 25% of the time. I am very grateful that STBXH has acknowledged the importance of our children continuing to live in our home (which I am currently occupying), and he has expressed a willingness to work with me to make that financially possible. For example, his pension is an asset that he could keep while I keep a corresponding amount of the home equity. I also acknowledge and support his desire to find a home that he wants, largely for my children's benefit. I think that divorced couples can have fair settlements while still trying to be creative about making it work to ensure that both of their children's homes work for the children and the parents.
Anyway, good for you for being proactive. I envy you the real estate prices! Homes, even apartments in this city run $400,000-1,000,000 (including fixer uppers).
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
