Or maybe he just really hates disagreement and conflict and wants to avoid it?
Very much. We're both like that. When conflict arises he snaps, blames, dismisses or withdraws and I just run! After he snapped at me I apologized, then ran upstairs and hid in my office for the whole evening. Not the most productive way to solve a disagreement!
Originally Posted By: Freckle6
I know disagreeing about anything triggers the whole flight or fight thing instinctively which makes you feel you're fighting against the spouse, rather than you and your S fighting the problem together to figure out a solution.
Oooh this is GENIUS ... I have never heard that before but that's EXACTLY the way I should be looking at this, isn't it? Freckle you're a gem... thanks so much for sharing all your insights! This gives me much inspiration!
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
Not the most productive way to solve a disagreement! 