WAW 20 Years. Divorce to maybe possible R

[Coach]

She De-friended him.. that is huge!

Don't want to burst your bubble but maybe it has gone underground. Be very aware of her actions and the messages she gives you.

Has she stopped going to his class? How else did she have contact?

[Serenity13]

Pen~

It doesn't suck...

There are worse things to face than staying with a spouse who may or may not cheat on you again, who may or may not be cheating now.

I gained a hell of a lot more than I ever faced so IMO, no it doesn't suck. I am grateful for the chance I received to travel this path.

If you knew me when I came here, you would understand.

A dear friend of mine likened it to a lost little bird and now I am like a lion. (I hope I got that right)

As for the FB...Not to burst your boundary bubble, however there are ways to "hide" friends...My H did it with the OW...Verify before bringing it up.

[Pensacolabroken]

Thanks serenity good points. Coach she is still in tkd class but I don't know what her intentions are there. I have to see what she intends tkd is very important to her I need to figure that dynamic out and see how she sees the NC with him. This leads to new possibilities need to be level headed

[Pensacolabroken]

Thanks Idont. I know I dodged a bullet on the boundary I would have waited till saturday before following thru

[Coach]

This leads to new possibilities need to be level headed

Best thing you have said on here.

Think thru this, don't let your eomtions lead you. I was in the Air Force and my POW training helped me DB (i'm not kidding).

[TimeHeals]

I know I dodged a bullet on the boundary

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Man, you have to improve on your own attitude, I think.

She didn't do you any favors. The absolute minimum you should expect in a marriage is that your spouse won't sleep around or chase other people.

As far as "is this over" goes, I doubt it. These stories don't usually work that way.

[gutwrenching]

As for the FB...Not to burst your boundary bubble, however there are ways to "hide" friends...My H did it with the OW...Verify before bringing it up.

Not to beat this point to death, but I agree the unfriending means nothing if not coupled with transparency. My W unfriendd and blocked OM...then they exchanged FB passwords so they could see everything and of course created new email accounts...

[Pensacolabroken]

Coach I have attended the same schools SERE POW training. I need to use that and I never once thought of applying that training to this sit!

[Pensacolabroken]

Gut that is a possibility

[Pensacolabroken]

She is home now for almost an hour. I am outside. I am not planning on bringing it up till she does then I plan to ask her0 is she communicating aat all? How did she notify him no NC. I willtell her I want total transparency