Always and Forever??????

[AntoniaB]

You know, in my opinion, you said what you needed to say. I wrote a similar email to my H. I think no one has the right to try to force us to abandon our faith in marriage if the vows truly meant something to us, and we have every right to communicate that to our WAS's. I think your email comes off as very strong and it shows you stand by your convictions and have a real plan to maintain things to the best of your ability for yourself and your kids. I don't see any pleading or begging or anything of the sort in there. I see a strong person.

My H has said to me many times that his callousness or detachment has been deliberate because he thinks it would be "easier for ME to detach from him if I could just learn to hate him instead of love him." I said "I think what you mean to say is that you think it would be easier for YOU to detach from ME if I just grew to hate you. Well, I'm not giving you that satisfaction, and I'm not making this easier on you. You can't control my emotions. Only I can."

I think this email to him communicates that you are free to think what you want and to continue to believe in marriage, and he cannot take that from you. Bravo.