I just read the end of your old thread and whether you believe it or not, it sounds a lot like me several years ago when I had to D my first husband. There was abuse so I knew in my head that I was doing the right thing but my heart wanted him to change and make our M better. Of course, he wouldn't.
One therapist that I went to listened to me for over the "hour" and then said, "Do you hear what you are saying? You want this man who has never done anything for you to stop his current selfish actions and DO....for you to have closure. That is about YOU not him. " I got mad at her and never went back. But, over time, what she said has sunk in and it's true. What I wanted him to do was about me. He knew that and was never going to do it.
Your H is probably still in a very hurt and angry place. He knows that you need.....for closure and he will not give it to you right now(maybe never). You need to make peace with that and try to let go of your need for this conversation. From what you've already told us, this is not new behavior for him. It's exactly how he's acted every time you've needed communication from him. It's time to make peace. He's not going to give you what you need.
