So Time Starsky, and Steve MC, what is the harm in a week? What? Why the alacrity? thoughts? And where are you with your Sitch
SO now the gloves come off b/c someone doesn't like what there're hearing.
The truth hurts. They all speak from experience of reading 1,000s of posts.
Why are you different from the other thousand of posters?
Be kind to your elders.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
she is using her choice to DROP the OM.. that is all.. that is the only thing I am prepared to allow a small amount of time for...
Cuz next time I'll really, really, really , reallllllyyy, rrrrrreeeeealllllllyyyyy mean it. Then you'll see. I'll not only let her eat cake, I'm baking it for her.
Don't you see she is starting to come around by setting a boundary. She won't respect you if you waffle. She wants to know her husband wants her to be faithful and won't let her behave badly towards him.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
no hinky intended. I understand what you are stating. My question is my DB Coach has had 1500 sitch's and he believes that the Boundary IS important. No argument... but I have not allowed the time to watch the effects of my actions and insisting on the boundary.. she has not dropped him from FB true, but she was home all weekend after Friday. She has gone from demanding a divorce to putting it on pause. And she knows the boundary.
Are you saying I should just nuke the past steps that are in keeping with DB/DR to set the goal and monitor the results and DO WHAT IS WORKING.. to just demaning she comply with my boundary right now today? please explain because I am genuinly confused why you are in conflict with my DB coach.
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
I also know the track records of past posters sitchs and so on. I am simply taking the advice of my DB Coach, using the Boundary but also allowing time to see if she comes over on her own. IT could happen.. or not, and then I stick the guns. the result will be the same next week as it would be today... agree?
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
"I am trying to be a person that is kind and compassionate. I respect people. I respect you. Marriages need to have healthy boundries for security and safety. A week ago, I told you that I have a boundry that is non negotiable, and asked you to respect my boundry. You said you would think about it. A week is long enough. I am assking you to IMMEDIATLY stop all contact and your "friendship" and relationship with OM." I then said "a marriage deserves the respect and safety of a boundry. I am not asking for something unreasonable."
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
