As for the thoughts about leaving, I try to be very honest about about my thoughts and feelings, but I am also careful not to use the possibility of leaving as a threat to be manipulative. The bottom line is that I am not entertaining any thoughts of leaving, I want to find a way to work it out.
As for feeling respected and cared about, my discussions here have made it very clear to me that my H is a physically oriented person and I am more of a psychologically oriented person - no technical terms here, just my own observations - so for my H the fix is simple, more sex. When it comes to him helping me, the touchy-feely stuff is not so well defined. trying4years, I think you are spot on. I ahve tried to explain, but he doesn't get it. I will keep trying to describe what I want in more concrete terms.
