What is and is not DBing

[MrBond]

LRT is not an ultimatum. It's when you agree to the D and that's that. You aren't demanding anything or pushing anything.

A boundary is basically what you won't tolerate in your spouse. Will a boundary stop them from doing what they want? No. They're going to do whatever it is they want.

In the case of some of the DB'ers, they went ahead and filed themselves and when they took action, it snapped the WAS out of the fog. If you feel your S has overstepped your boundary more than you can tolerate, then you'll figure out if you want to file or not.