Advice Needed- to bust or not?

[gutwrenching]

There is no way to predict what is going happen/how they are going to react. So do yourself a favor and don't make a decision based on an assumption you cannot make. From my experience, when I exposed (to only my W), it made her furious and pushed them closer together for a while and pushed them deeper undercover so as to not get caught and deal with the drama. In the end, reconciliation is what is going on now...lot of luck involved to get to this point.

So what do you want to do? What do you need to do for your sanity? To expose/bust or not is a highly debated topic...I don't have a strong opinion one way or the other...but you have to be comfortable with the decision and the fallout from that decision.