Good to hear from you FFH! It's been too long. Are you going to update us on your thread? Maybe I just missed it.
My W and I don't really have an R right now. Pretty much the only time I talk to or see her is when we are exchanging kids and lots of times we don't even see each other then. I pick them up from school when she is at work and she picks them up from my house usually after I have left for work. There is almost no communicaiton at this point.
I am getting closer to moving on and being happy on my own. I don't just sit around and think about this as much as I used to. I try to get out with friends a lot and keep myself busy. I'm actually doing pretty well, considering the situation.
I was the same as you when frist hit, the difference is that I haven't seen any change in W wanting to work on this and I don't know if she ever will. I have mostly resigned myself to that fact, but it is so hard to let go completely. I too thought I would welcome her back with open arms, if it ever happened, but I have learned here that that approach is not the way to go and will not work. Even if you wanted to do it, you have to make her work for it. Maybe that was a giant problem in our entire relationship, I just let her have and do whatever she wanted. I didn't really lead, I was no longer a challenge for her. Who knows?
What do you think was the biggest thing(s) that turned it around for you guys? I'd love to read an update on your sitch. I should probably go back and dig up your old one and read it again. Everyone is so similar that they tend to bleed together if you don't keep them fresh in your mind.
Thanks for posting to me FFH. I really do appreciate your support as we have followed each other down this path for quite a while now. I guess I still hope that my W comes around, I'm just not counting on it.......
