If people find out i know they would be forced to stay away from each other. They would both be very embarrassed. But i also know that he would be extremely angry at me, and possibly feel the need to leave his job. I just get so mad, though, for some reason especially at her, that they are bold enough to continue this "friendship" (or whatever it is i don't even know b/c he has lied so much). They should be embarrassed by there behavior!They should not be acting this way especially in a school setting. I also think that it is extremely unfair to me that people see us separating and don't know the circumstances. It makes it look as if I just let my marriage failed, when I have been willing to reconcile from the start. So I feel as if i am caught between a rock and a hard place. Bust the divorce and save my self- respect but probably lose all hopes of reconciling. Or don't bust, keep a slight chance of reconciling, and carry this burden on my shoulders. This is all so unfair!