My partner and I have reconciled (unexpectedly- I had given up-isn't that always the way). We have not been sexual in 6 months (that was 90% of the breakup) and we are both shy to renew this side that caused us both so much pain and fighting. I am the HD and I do not want to startle her. I have always been a more sexual human being and she has always been less (less masturbating, no porn-video or book, no toys, etc.). I know we will never have equal drives but I'm also a more sensual person over all.
I'd love to hear ideas (we are both women by the way) for increasing sensual connection without actual sex. I want her to feel safe, but sensually stimulated on a fairly regular basis. She doesn't enjoy kissing intensely unless we are making love.
Aside from the obvious massage and non-sexual touch (we also slow dance some as well), any ideas?
