I got disconnected there, but what I was getting at, you would like to have your husband make you feel certain feelings, can you list out certain specific things that he could do that would create those feelings in you? So that he could understand exactly how his decisions and actions can connect to your feelings?
If you could list those out, would he be willing to do those actions for you? You know, most HD partners are highly motivated to make lovemaking better. They just have a hard time understanding what the LD partner wants :> If you are telling him you want to feel a certain way, then he may be confused and frustrated because he does not know how to create those feelings. He will need to be told what actions create those feelings in you...?
