It takes time. I have been going through thing much as your sitch but W does not want to open up much. Everytime she does she blames me for bringing up our R.
You said what you need to do. Believe in yourself, do your 180's not for him but for yourself, and lower your expectations. You will feel better about yourself. Besides you want him to make the right choice, which is you of course, not force H into a choice.
HopelessIn Love
M and W:33 Kids M-10 ILYBNIL-4/2/10 Sep: 8/20/10 Back into house: 10/18/10