Saturday I decided to "lead" W into cooking. I read some Chinese recipes online and found a huge Asian grocery store not too far from where we live.
I asked her to go for a ride. She was like a kid in the candy store. We came home with huge amounts of stuff that I did not know was edible or even in existence.
She was enjoying every minute of the time in the kitchen, I helped and my cluelessness prompted lot of laughs.
I invited a friend over to help us consume the wonderful oriental concoction.
On Sunday morning she was bored and decided to go clothes shopping. She came back hours later with bags of new sophisticated but sexy stuff. I was watching her as she picked out the outfit to wear. I was not shy with my compliments.
When fully dressed she asked if I wanted to have dinner with her mom and her partner. I said that this was an excellent idea. She wanted to leave early so we could have some time alone. I said that this is another excellent idea and that I would love to show her off in her new "finish".
At the restaurant bar we ran into some of her "friends". At first I put my shields up. I have never been exposed to them and naturally felt some resentment. She introduced my and the "friends" were very cordial and nice. My resentment quickly subsided. They turned out to be a bunch of funny outgoing blokes.
Her friends shortly left and we found ourselves the only patrons at the bar and we started watching a football game that was on. Suddenly she asked "What's up with Tom Brady's hair? He looks like a girl. Not very manly."
I said, "I read somewhere that he admitted that his hot Brazilian wife told him to grow it and won't let him cut it now."
She said, "If you had a hot wife like that, wouldn't you do that too?"
I said, "The only thing I would admit to is that you are hotter than Gisele."
She laughed and replied, "But I told you to get some different looking jeans and you got them. You even found them good looking."
"That's correct," I said "so I would admit that thanks to you I realized that my 80's wardrobe needed upgrading."
She smiled turned back on a game and said "Hmm, he's such a doormat."
During a dinner her mom and partner started telling us a story about their friend who has a way of constantly pissing people off. Apparently she managed to make them both look like a$$es on the event they recently participated. They had some ideas as to how they should have responded to the situation, but they were still wrong about it. I was preparing my recommendation when my W cut me off quickly and said, "Next time she starts that crap call her out. Say - you obviously don't agree how I handled this situation. Please help me to understand how I could have done it better from your point of view. Then listen and watch her make a fool of herself."
I sat quietly and proudly watching her coach her mother.
After dinner we were standing outside and her mom suddenly realized that she forgot her doggy bag. Her partner said "Woof, woof." and ran back inside the restaurant.
Her mom said, "Good puppy, see, they are good for something."
My W smiled and said, "Yeah, he's a dog, you're the cat. As long as he has the catnip he will be good for a lot more than he even realizes."
I bursted out laughing. They had no idea why I found it so funny.
The point of this seemingly boring post is that I once again am wondering where this newly found wisdom in her is coming from. I find it extremely attractive. I'm also wondering if it has always been there and I just had not noticed it until now.
I feel (yes, feel) that we are reconnecting in a very calm and wise manner.
I think I am falling in love with her. It is strange to admit that perhaps I fell out of love myself.
It is a good feeling to look at your spouse and feel proud of her.
Or dried sea cucumber that looks like a chunk of cement
Not eating an "animal" that protects itself from predators by regurgitating its own internal organs (it can re-grow them), so that the predator literally eats its guts while it escapes.
Gotta draw the line somewhere.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
Or dried sea cucumber that looks like a chunk of cement
Not eating an "animal" that protects itself from predators by regurgitating its own internal organs (it can re-grow them), so that the predator literally eats its guts while it escapes.
My W smiled and said, "Yeah, he's a dog, you're the cat. As long as he has the catnip he will be good for a lot more than he even realizes."
And then we went home and grilled sandwhiches.
The catnip is just to attract, amuse and stimulate the cat. The dog must close the deal.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
