Be prepared for some pull back and don't over react when it happens. Good luck!
Thanks for the warning about some pull back. It helped me keep my expectations a bit lower and I think that helped. H came over Sunday as planned. Overall it was a nice visit, but he wore out quick and still needed to hit the road. He was supposed to drive 4 hours to his grandma's house. She passed away in August and he is going to pack up what is left today.
No real talking this time. Seemed like he was just tired and starting to get grumpy. I told him I knew he had wanted to talk (reminding him that he was the one who wanted to talk) if he was tired that we would see each other Wednesday and could talk then. He said that would be fine, said goodbye to me & D, and headed out.
Think when I see H on Wednesday I will try hard to stay in listening mode. May ask early on about what he would like to talk about so it doesn’t build up. My IC also is encouraging me to get the ok for my IC to call H to try to get him in for a one time appointment. I plan on doing that. H had twice said he would go for a one time appointment, but has not done it.
Also plan to keep up some “behind the scenes” 180’s I know he will notice also. I am bad about waiting for him to finish house projects, so I am going to work on painting my D’s bed that we have been trying to finish together. Going to have dinner ready when he gets there too. I’m not always good about having dinner planned out. Little stuff, but noticeable, and it will give me something concrete to work on.
