Tell me how the dates go. I'm not ready. Hell I'm not even in the same hemisphere, but in a month or two I'll probably try match.com. How do you tell the women? What is their response? Have you gone on any second dates? Just curious.
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011
I tell them that I am seperated and that I am looking for friendship at this time. I do have a couple of second dates planned this week. Do yourself a big favor when you set-up your profile set a few boundaries. I am in my late forties so I had to state that "tewnty somethings need not apply" I already did that I am not interested in being someone's suggar daddy again.
Also, you will get a lot of foreign ladies claiming that they are from the states until you chat with them. So I also state that I am not interested in being someone's green card ticket and that once I understand that your are not from where you said that you are from you will hear this "click".
hey guys. I too joined the dating site. Its best to be honest with your sitch n what your looking for.
you will get your confidence back. for me when my W found out it change my sitch. she now as the feeling shes losing me.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
It is not good for your confidence or detaching from your sitch if you sit home and hold a torch for your W. I wouldn't date with the objective of getting my STBXW jealous or hope that this reignites our R. I am dating for me in detaching further and builing up my own self esteem.
i agree you cant do it just to get a reaction from W. as with any decision you have to be ready to follow through with it because its what YOJ want.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
I am dating for me in detaching further and builing up my own self esteem.
I read this here all of the time, and quite frankly, I don't get it.
Now, don't get me wrong. There was a time... in Time's life when he thought this way. Best way to get over a woman was to find 3 more women, and all of that.
But... that's all ego stuff. You know what is even stronger? Realizing you don't need a woman in your life to be happy. Then you can pick and choose who you decide to let it instead of frantically trying to fill a vacuum.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
For me it is just to pass the time. I realized yesterday that I've only lived alone for about 6 months in my entire life. Now I'll be doing it for a while.
I'm not looking to jump right back into things but I'd like to keep my social schedule full.
I can say that you CAN meet some pretty outstanding women online. I me my W on match.com. On second thought maybe that isn't a good example.
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011
I suspect as much. I have a really close female friend, 38. She tells me it is hard to get beyond date 3 because by that time you are either in the "marriage material" bucket or not. Nobody has time for just fun.
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011
I am pretty happy. I am spending a lot of time with my sons and doing a lot of activities with them. I have been working out like a mad man as part of my GAL. I don't play poker and I am not a bar fly or club maven. I don't see anything wrong with stoking ones ego a little. After all it has been pretty much decimated the last few months.
I have read many times on this site that the primary purpose of this site is to bust the D. However, the underlying theme is to make yourself stronger via detaching and GALing so that one can endure the sitch that they are in. I see dating as just a progression in how one deals with their own relationship cycle and in making themselves a stronger person.
You are lucky in that your W realized that she would lose a great guy if she proceeded with the D. He!! I would by you a drink if I ever had the priviledge of meeting you because you helped me through my toughest times.
I have read a lot of posts on this site and you and a few others are in the minority with saving your M. MY M is over as I know it so I am focusing on me and making me happy and whole. I don't plan to create my own harem, just nice conversation with someone of the opposite sex...dinner and a movie.
