I also do not want anyone to feel like it is the end all, be all, or that the fact that you are not D, holds some sort of special meaning...
Cat I agree with everything you wrote but please explain this one thing ^^^^ a little more.
Depressed people are controlling. Divorce is a way to control. So when the divorce does not occur why would you say that this has no meaning? To me it could be a message is being sent by the depressed person.
I understand that trying to understand mental illness is like garbage in garbage out.
Is that what you are trying to say?
Cadet,
It has meaning, if you allow it to hold you back in your life.
If you are waiting for the D, as a way to decide what you want in your life, then you are being controlled...
If you move on ONLY because you have been D, and not because it is what you choose to do, then you are being controlled...
Again, it is how we ALLOW ourselves to be affected by our S's actions...
And honestly, I know people who are, and have been, a couple, in love, very in love, for years and years and years...
However they have chosen not to wed...does that make their relationship any more or less than that of someone who chose to?
Our actions and feelings have the meaning that we place on them...
To a MLCer that hasn't filed, it could mean something, or it could not...
We just don't know until they choose to talk...
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
