Please help ASAP

[gutwrenching]

Thanks for the kind words you sent me, it is appreciated and I want to comment on a couple things you mentioned

I think my H was also depressed trying to juggle M and OW. He was extremely guilt ridden... still is but seems to be coming out of his depression with us separated and him filing for D. I think he is in the fantasy of finding his happiness

If there is anything like my sitch, there will be ups and downs with the depression and the guilt. Hopefully at some point reality will hit and end the fantasy. We actually had a conversation this w/e that was really tough on me, but I learned a lot about what went on (more than I wanted to know, but W needed to talk about it so I listened). She always knew what she was doing was wrong, deep down, and a couple of times she wanted to quit/stop, "but just couldn't"...that is the addictive nature of this I guess. At some point he will either have to face reality and the guilt or hit bottom. And if that doesn't happen, well you are young, strong, a successful career in front of you, and you have learned a ton from this experience...so his loss will be someone else's gain.

But don't give up hope, your sitch is still early on.