MLC WIFE THREATENS LEGAL ACTION

[Truegritter]

My problem was that I did not want her to fall so I was always there to pick her up.

This and...

I know my wife must feel she is a failure or that she has no other options but I know she can do many things.

This ^^^

One of the things that I got from reading "Codependent No More" is that we confuse fixing with love, understanding and helping.

How do you think your W feels when she can't do things, make decisions, succeed

Without YOU helping or telling her how much you think she can do it?

Pressure? Control? Expectation?

This is a tough Bobby and I am guilty of it.

Your realtionshipo becomes parent/child not husband/wife

and she will resent and blame you for it

because she wants to be an adult and have her OWN successes.

She wants to be independent of you...