Take care of yourself. That is not by obsessing about what is going on with her.
This ^^^^
I'm 12 hours into this process and I feel MUCH better. You are not giving up, you are giving her what she is asking you for. Give her that gift.
Something that helped me a lot. Focus on a single goal for now. One thing. Maybe it is finding an apartment, maybe it is finding an attorney, maybe it is telling a friend you can rely on your situation. One thing. Chose it and ot it. Tommorow, you can pick another goal.
Nothing will happen fast, and you won't know the long term outcome of your choices. But you have to act.
Protect yourself.
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011
Man this is going to take for ever. My nightmare is she does nothing but day dreams for ever. Getting the best of both worlds living in our house with me paying bills and doing whatever she wants. Obviously I am taking the finances so that won't happen but [censored] she could make it harder.
She's always a dreamer, never takes actions, ust announces she's doing X then does nothign.
SO what did she do this morning? She decided she didn't need to go take care of her big planned events for the day to make the divorce happen. She stayed home...
I was 1/2 asleep so I just said ok, I should of told her [censored] that and take us to work/school as planned.
I'm not but my finances preclude me from moving out and I can't make her move out legally. I am taking over all the finances though so she'll have to do something soon.
Also she made me cake and a nice dinner for my bday last night. She said she was doing it for our son. She spent like all afternoon on it. I was greatful and did my best to enjoy it and have fun with my son.
passive-agressive behavior has a tendency of pushing them into the other mens arms. esp. when they are "dreaming" about them and waiting for you to lash out. it becomes yet another reason to seek comfort and attention.
Oh and maybe grab some flowers for my desk. I'd like to go to the gym but I should be with my son I think and spend some more time with im. One goal I thought of is that I have never really opened up to him about what I believe in. I'd like to start telling him and connecting with him like that.
