Hi, may I suggest that you look in the archives at Yellowrose's threads. her husband started exiting the tunnel in earnest about 5 years ago, and if you look at her threads for the period 5 - about 3.5 years ago [in six month tranches], you will see her frustrations mirror yours. They made it through eventually. It took a while, but as far as I know are together and very happy. I don't think she posts much anymore, but she stayed on quite a while after they reconciled. A woman of real spirit and courage.
There were a series of threads among all of these called 'Waiting for the other shoe to drop'. her story is inspirational.
