It is definitely a fine line. You don't want to push him, but at the same time you feel like H enjoys where you are at right now and you may never move forward. If you weren't married and didn't have a kid, you would probably say sorry H, but we are through because I want more and you aren't willing or possibly even able to give it to me. You two would go your separate ways, and over time have different relationships with different people.

Of course, this can't happen with being M and having S. Because you will be in each other's lives for forever, it is hard to figure out what to do. I do believe that H likes what he has right now. He has a family, but none of the responsibility including monetarily.

I would say stay strong and keep doing your own thing. Do what you feel is best for you and S, and pray. I can't tell you how many times I have wondered or still second guess my decision to file, but then I find out something else and I remember that I am doing the right thing and am doing what is best for me and S.

I hope this week is less crazy and that you get to enjoy Halloween with your little one. What is he going to be this year? S won't get to really dress up because we will be driving during trick-or-treating, but I am bringing his costume to TN (Luigi).


Me29 S3
H left 4/1/09
I file 8/2/10
Divorce final 5/17/11
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