How to tell the kids

[Fightingforher]

Dan,

Hello my friend. I've caught up on your sitch and although I'm a few steps ahead in the process, what your feeling is normal. I've never been in a position to give advice but I can certainly empathize with what you’re going through. The advice that I’ve been given and similar to what I’ve read on your thread is to find that internal happiness. For me that hasn’t happened yet but I feel I’m getting closer.

Its ironic Dan, when I was hit with D all I could think about is making my M work and praying that my W would come back to me. Reality has set in and she is begging to work on our M now. I’m more conflicted now then ever, how do you take someone back that had put us through this. Will the feeling of betrayal ever go away? Will we ever trust our W’s again?

These are questions you really need to ask yourself and only you can answer them. I always thought I would take her back with open arms but that’s not the case anymore. I’ve maintained a pretty good R with her after all we’ve been through. I’m trying to learn how to forgive her for what has happened. I think with time both of us will be able to forgive our wives and move forward with/without them