WAW 20 Years. Divorce to maybe possible R

[Pensacolabroken]

well, 500 am and WAW is up. Took the opportunity to start my week off on the right foot.

I told her I have too many unanswered questions about her "friend". I told her simply this:

"WAW, What are you willing to do to help me restore trust in you and our marriage?"

her - "end my FB with OM"

"I said more than just a face book ending.. I want total end of contact period."

Her "I said I was thinking about it"

me "it has gone on long enough"

"I am trying to be a person that is kind and compassionate. I respect people. I respect you. Marriages need to have healthy boundries for security and safety. A week ago, I told you that I have a boundry that is non negotiable, and asked you to respect my boundry. You said you would think about it. A week is long enough. I am aking you to IMMEDIATLY stop all contact and your "friendship" and relationship with OM." I then said "a marriage deserves the respect and safety of a boundry. I am not asking for something unreasonable."

"This is your choice. I am going to assume that your decision is made and I will begin to take steps to go in a different direction. If our marriage is to have any hope of being repaired or if we are to have any type of honest relationship even if it cant be repaired, we have to get beyond OM."

I then said "you cant have him waiting in reserve or me in reserve. It isnt right" She said " I dont have anyone in reserve and I thought we (OM) could just remain friends"

I was incredulous at her state of denial! Where has she been these last couple of weeks? This shows me she really is rationalizing that she and he could remain friends! WTH?!

I told her "Really?? NO WAY. Not after the lies, the phone records, the dinners, the meetings ,, the lies and all the other unanswered questions about your relationship with him. NO."

I told her "it is your choice. and I am not waiting another week, or even another 2 days. You know what I am asking for, you know if you want the marriage to have a chance of repair this must happen, and the friendship with him must end immediately."

She said "ok" and then I left.