Originally Posted By: Pensacolabroken
The point of boundry/ultimatlum is not to be a relationship builder that comes later. I see it as a method to begin working on the relationship


Exactly!

It can be a relationship saver. Ask any addict who's faced an intervention and been through to recovery...

But the text says quite clearly its a go.. And to mean it by following through.

The ultimatum is effectively saying "ok, lets put the breaks on this before we wrap ourselves around a pole... "

It saves lives...