I have made it clear that I see a difference between a boundary and an ultimatum. Evidently, DB (and yourself) see them as the same. Therefore, on the topic of "what is and what is not DB" evidently what I am advocating would not (strictly speaking) be DB. I do believe that what I am talking about, however, is in the same spirit of DB.
I am not advocating "standing" at all. It may be difficult to understand that an ultimatum and "standing" are not the only alternatives. Based on the response here, it seems to have struck a nerve - and also revealed that I have not explained what I'm talking about sufficiently well. That's something I'll just have to keep working on.
