People need to be prepared.. that is what the vets will do.
i don't think all vets do. most just refer to the "letting go" thread or "what makes a man attractive" or "sandi's do's and dont's list".
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The vet expects failure.. and still tries to lead. But it can become frustrating to do. You can only come up with so many ways to say it.
i agree with this and i'm not a vet.
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So.. now you have cleared the fog? Do you understand yet?
to be honest, i don't know if i'm out of the fog yet. sometimes i think i am and then wham .. i go through his crazy phase and i'm SURE i'm not out of the fog. but in some ways, i don't think i am.
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I knew.. from post 1 that me and you would be right here.. fighting it out.
You very likely won't like me.. cause I am gonna beat you up.
I am OK with that.
i'm okay with it too.
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Cause from the start.. I told you all you had to say was "Forrest.. go away."
you know why i didn't tell you go away? because i needed someone to challenge what i thought i knew about relationships and men. i need to "see", hear, and feel what i knew about relationships challenged. in a way, it would help me change for the better. so i can approach future "relationships" with a different outlook.
i know me. if you can't totally convince me that my knowledge is flawed, then i will go into future relationships making the same mistakes. heck, it's like the LLs. i didn't know that gifts were so important and it doesn't mean they are materialistic.
i didn't know about the power of compassion. i didn't know that men need to feel valued/needed and loved .. i know i'm not using the right words but it's something along those lines.
challenge my views. i'm not trying to pick a fight about the "women want financial security" issue. i'm trying to let you know why i see it my way. and maybe someone will change that in me.
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Dumped.. Who do you want to be?
for the longest time, i wanted to be my h's wife. but now, i just want to be the daughter that my mom knew before i got married. i put family first before myself. i could care less if i was with anybody. i was content on my own. i worked to take care of the family. it didn't bother me if i didn't have a valentine on feb 14th. i didn't care if i received flowers or not. i had disposable income but didn't spend it. saved it for a place of my own.
