FB2, is the custody/parenting schedule something that I can draft and just have her sign? We're really trying not to make any legal arrangements out of this separation, and I'd hate to go to the mattresses right away. She's been really clear that this isn't by any means a permanent thing. Wanting to keep me wriggling right on the hook...
Looks like she's calling the shots not you!?
"no-fault" in theory would divide the kids time and property in half. However courts have broad latitude to do what's "in the best interests of the children". If you move out to your nice small 2 bedroom apt. while W has free reign of the house and the kids spend most of the time with her and nothing is in writing guess what could happen when/if D happens a few months down the road and W has worked up her anger? You will most likely NOT be able to move back into your house, you may not see your kids as much, you will have to pay W a huge sum every month in child support and alimony to compensate for her meager income so she can continue to pay the mortgage and other monthly expenses. Why? Because all this could be seen as "in the best interests of the children" and there's proof that you are able to pay up as you're already doing it. I'm not saying all this will happen but it certainly could given what you seem to be doing.
IMO: consult a very sharp lawyer for an hour or so quietly by yourself well BEFORE Nov6 and stay 3 steps ahead of your W.
