IF IT WORKS (achieves your result of MORE LOVE) keep doing it, if it does not work ...STOP DOING IT. _________________________
The problem I have with this is, from my observation, people mistake what "working" and "not working" means. Too often, people stop taking a principled stand if their wayward spouse gets angry, for example. "Oh, she's really angry now -- she said I'd REALLY blown it now, and is threatening DIVORCE, and is really treating me like cr*p now!" for example.
So, does that mean what you did isn't "working"??? Or maybe you needed to enforce the boundary, and stand up to the boorish behavior?
Conversely, I see people staying the course on "giving them space," because it seems to create peace in the household. Well, sure -- you're letting them have their cake, and eat it too!
