I found out this summer that my husband had been having an ea/pa since March. He is a teacher and it was with another teacher. During the summer he wanted to work on the relationship. He maintained no contact. I knew things would be tough going back to school, but I didn't know how tough. Basically, since school started no contact went out the window. Now he doesn't want to work on the relationship anymore. I have kept this a secret from anyone/everyone who might be connected to his school. He was so worried this summer that if people found out it would effect his job. And begged me not to say anything. He still tries to scare me into not saying anything, saying that he would attack me back if people found out, or that he would not be able to provide for our son if he lost his job. I don't want that burden on my shoulders, knowing that i could put his job in jeopardy, but it infuriates me that he continues to have some kind of relationship with her while he expects me to keep quiet. It seems like he thinks that if he can just maintain a friendship with her, he can make it look like our marriage fell apart and that he and she started a relationship in the aftermath of that. So my question is- do I bust their affair and start telling people. Is there any benefit to that aside from just making myself feel better? He is planning on moving out at the end of the month.
