What you said "quit worrying about detaching nonsense" is the absolute best advice I have read yet on this forum of pain, loss, hope and rebirth.
There is NO set one size fits all formula. We each have to take each day as it comes and deal with it.And by "deal with it", I mean deal with the tears, the rage, the wanting to scream, the whatever "it" is , in PRIVATE. Away from the WAS, away from the kids, away from family and friends. The reality is we are alone with our thoughts, feelings, distrust, anger, etc and only WE can put it all into a proper perspective.
