How do you move on...when do you just give up?

[marie2235]

Thank you so much - you are all correct. He is very cruel and has no respect or love for me at all. Aside from the fact he is cheating on my with a 20 year old kid that he had the nerve to take around my kids, and tell them not to tell me, he ignores me unless he wants somehing and is refusing to help with my kids medical co pays and other things.

I took a huge step - I saw a lawyer, who told me I have more than enough to prove adulty in court, even though, in my state, which is no fault, it doesn't matter. Maybe it would help wiht alimony.

So, he apparantly checks the cell phone bill, found out who I called and said something to me. I am not going to be a liar like he is, so I did tell him the truth - that I saw a lawyer and I watned to file. He only said, why shoudl you be the one to file when I am the one that wants this? (well, why the heck hasn't he filed? I don't get it)

So - I actually want to be the one to file, so I am trying to gather the info for the lawyer, but I don't have access to his financial stuff - he opened up a PO box months ago. The lawyer said that she can supeonia the bank accounts he opened up wtih the kid he is cheating on me with.

He is also in the process of getting a new job -which he will be starting in the next couple of week, so I kind of want to wait until he ofically starts that, since it's more money.

I have had it - I have been manipulated, emotionally absued adn used. I am so mad. I still am hoping in the future, he will snap out of it and want to try again. But, I need to do soemthing for my own mental heatlh and my kids.

I have my kids seeing a counselor, and he is having a fit about it - they dont' need to see a "shrink" he says - I didn't say that was okay. So, he refuses to help me pay for it.

So..I want to get this done, so he knows I am seroius and not plaing games. If he does it first, it wouldnt have the same impact.

Not from these parts - I am curious, too, about your epiphany.

If anyone has any adive how to deal, moving forward on this path, I would happily accept it.

Thanks again.