I am still trying to understand this. If your spouse violates a boundary after you set the boundary... what then?
Starsky
According to the text, a boundary is an ultimatum and you need to be prepared to follow through with it. Making "empty threats" is pointless. Again, this is according to the DR text.
This follows that whatever the consequences are of the ultimatum/boundary you carry them out.
It further follows that if there are no consequences to your "boundary" then you are simply making an "empty threat". The text says quite clearly that this is not advisable.
