Back on July 1st my H claimed he wanted to R with me. He apologized for hurting me, he broke off with the OW on July 3rd. BUT, never ever did he do anything to prove to me he wanted me back. Yes, he said he would never leave me again, that he would stand by me thru our long hard journey called reconciliation BUT as soon as I had a meltdown, BAM he was gone. He had words but no action. Didn't call me, didn't email me, didn't plan anytime together, that was mostly on my end. As everyone said to me, " you wanted him more than he wanted you." He kept saying, " I want to take it slow because I can't take all the negatives about how I hurt you. I can't live like that anymore."
He says he loves me but just wants to be friends. All the books I read and therapists I saw said he should have promised not to cheat on me again. He never did that. He never wanted to work at our relationship. Saw a counselor twice and quit. Didn't really want to go in the first place. Had contact with the OW for business purposes but I found out from a mutual friend. His lies never stopped.
Personally from what my life coach said and our friends including male friends, H wanted his cake and eat it too. He gets angry with me when I say to him, " you want your single life and be friends with me, to have that security knowing I am still your family."
What is up with these men ? How long does this take ? How do I know for certain if he is in a MLC?
Me – 56 H – 57 Married 29 years and in Nov. 30 years S since March 20
