Well, I have been trying to do a 180%. Stopped pursuing, gave my ife more space, been concentrating on getting myself happy, going out more etc.
Had my 10th wedding anniversary last week. On the same day got an email from the wife of the other guy on facebook saying that I should know she had intercepted a text message from my ife to her husband saying "every touch is magic. I love you and need you".
I confronted my wife who admitted that they had been meeting up for coffee and that once it had gone further - they went to a nearby park and kissed and fondled and he put a hand down her pants and they engaged in oral sex and she had one of those orgasms that she doesn't seem to be able to have with me.
I was numb. Didn't know what to do.
The next night I came home and she was acting erratically. She went off to the bedroom (to text him). All of a sudden she calls out for help. I go to the bedroom and she is vomitting uncontrollable and is on the floor and cannot stand up.
I call an ambulance and take her to the hospital. It turns out that she has been taking a medication for anxiety which she may have had a reaction to after a few glasses of wine.
She got released from hospital a day later and then had a counselling session with a counsellor she had been seeing who told her she should not be on the medication and that we should not make any big decisions until she is off the medication.
So I find myself ending up being a nursemaid to the woman who has cheated on me. In the meantime I found her diary. All the time I was giving her space she has been meeting this guy for dates (movies, art gallery etc) behind my back. She has had sex with him once in a park as well as engaging in oral sex with him in my car.
She has told me she still wants to work on our marriage but refuses to commit to breaking off contact with the other guy. Saids that she did that for 7 months earlier this year to work on us and it did no good (although I had no idea that they were not in contact). Claims that she thought I was having an affair while away interstate and that somehow justifies her actions.
So I am ata loss to know what to do next. Been reading DB but don't know what to do next in my current circumstances as every move I have made has seemed to have backfired.
