M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Been a little while since I posted... My sister stayed at my house for a few days recently, helped me out around the house and with the kids. My wife still has been avoiding me and barely talks other than text. She has only been around me on her off days when she has the kids and has nowhere else to go. My W and I are still passing eachother without much to say. She had mentioned going together with the kids to the pumpkin farm, which I agreed, but she later spoke of it as if she was going alone... I said nothing about the change and she did go alone. Me and the kids carved the pumpkins alone on a different day... a good day with them.
While my sis was in my house, my wife started complaining about putting gas in one of the cars, my turn she said (even though I just put some in the other car) I told I had an appointment that day and couldn't do it, but if she put $10 in I'd repay her... She starts in on how dies she know I'll pay and that type of stuff. I've never done her wrong and as long as I've lived never didn't repay a debt. I told her to stop causing a fight over something so rediculous. She began to get aggitated over other things, so I asked her to leave for work eatly and that me and my sis would take over with my kids.
A different day she stops by for what appeared to be nothing more than a bathroom break for her as she left kids in car, my sis said she thought it was wired and figured she was just checking to see if I was home, so she could go through property uninterupted.
Next night she was home on her off day with kids, a bit awkward, I didn't say much just laughed with my sis about stuff as W colored with kids. She approached me about a table she left out, which I put back in closet so kids wouldn't break or get hurt by it tipping. I joked as if i didn't know. She freaked out because she thought I took it. I then told her to calm down I was kidding and told her I put it away for her. She continued to nag about stuff, I finally told her to just be quiet or leave. She walked past later mumbling,"be quiet". I finally told her she could leave after the kids were put to bed, since she obviously had issues being around me. I did say that I didn't care to see her. She did cry a bit, got up right away and put the kids down. Got her stuff, I held the door open she left.
So the following day was not a good one. We got into an argument over something, I'm not even sure what started it, but both of us called eachother a few names. I told her I just wanted her to leave.
She said she would be out middle of next month. I said I wanted her out by the 1st of next month, mainly because it drives me crazy having her around. I'll have a great couple days and then I see her and all the anger and resentment flows right back in, I start thinking about everything and I'm left feeling sad again. She has said things will be easier when she's gone... I say JUST GO NOW. Very hard to not show anger. I keep screwing that up and starting over.
Currently all her stuff is packed and piled in the basement. No way she's turning back for a while.
I told my W 4 days ago I would only contact her if it was a necessity. She only texted, OK. Since then we have not spoken. We both avoid eachother. I've texted her only twice in response to her questions. She asked if I was going to a teacher conference... I responded, Yes. She asked how r kids, I don't respond... She asked to speak to them I responded call at 6:15. She has not been texting much either, but has texted a bit about storing boxes of things she bought in the garage. Texting good morning good night. Telling me when shell be putting gas in her car, Asking if I'll be doing things with the kids today, etc. I don't respond to those.
I don't know if you are sending your post by phone or what, but I had to chase it all over the screen. I think you are doing good with no contact (if I read it right).
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Self confidence goes a long way. Believe in yourself and don't let her throw you off guard. Sometimes, a person has to be shown you mean business, expecially if they are a WAS. Be stable, pray for stength, love on your kids.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
