Blaming your spouse If you're blaming your spouse, you are not DBing. Your spouse may be to blame, but you move forward by changing your own behavior.
This narrow interpretation of a text that runs upwards of 300+ pages may fit for the classic wayward case. But if there's depression, infidelity, etc the text does advocate confronting you spouse directly. For infidelity MWD even advocates installing sw on the home PC to get the truth.
Working on you isn't going to get a spouse with depression any healthier, and it certainly isn't going to help you confirm if there's an affair going on.
And you do need to know if your WS is having extramarital sexual activities so you can protect yourself from contracting any STD's.
The last time I checked, 180's weren't a cure for aids.
