Is there any hope for us?

[sandi2]

It is very difficult to come to this board as a WAW in an A. Some well-meaning challenges sound more like a kick in the gut from a bitter LBS. Maybe you don't think you're bitter, and maybe some others don't think they are either....but it always shows up when they start to post to a woman who had an A!

She's ASHAMED! Very ashamed, heart broken and she sees that her life is going up on smoke. I doubt that she's going to be tempted again....unless she completely goes off the deep end. That is always possible and that is why she needs help.

I still suggest counseling,but get somebody qualified and not some goof-ball. I went to a counselor after my EA, and was told that there was absolutely nothing wrong in what I did. Even in my frame of mind, I knew that wasn't right!

So Ashamed, do you go to Church? Are you a Christian? If so, then your greatest healing will come through spiritual feeding. A lot can be learned from the Savior's forgiving grace. If you have a good Pastor or Priest, then talk to him for guidance.

Have a strong and loving support group. By that, I do not mean people who put down your H, etc., but who show you love during this difficult time. When my kids do wrong, I still love them in spite of their wrongs. When I had my EA, my mother still loved me in spite of my wrong. You need to feel loved right now. Where is your family & friends?

Surround yourself with uplifting music instead of depressing country blues or funeral music, KWIM? Don't watch sad movies. Buy funny movies that will cause you to smile in spite of what you are going through. That's important! (Watch cartoon if you have to!)

Go to the library and read inspirational books and self-esteem books. It's so important that you get the right kind of mental and physical atomosphere. Eat good, pray hard, exercise often. Cry until you can't cry anymore but stay determined that life is not over and you will survive this.