thanks for your good advice. where are you living now? Do you have a good support system nearby. I joined a woman's support group 2 weeks ago, I think it will be really good for me. I knew i needed more people for support with the holidays coming. I plan on having no contact with h from now on. I still find this difficult sometimes but I know it is good for me to. It allows me to heal and focus on my own life. I get really worried about my financial future though because I have no way to protect it in my state without filing and my h is addicted to spending. It was like living with an addict. always on a roller coaster.
