Why are so many people giving him advice? Has the subject of your M been discussed even amoung his co-workers and people outside your circle?

There is not much you can do to stop people from saying things, but you can show your H that you have hope for a good MR by showing him positive changes in you.

I think it would be best not to bring up the people and whatever they may have said to him. If he hears that kind of stuff everywhere he goes then he doesn't want to rehash it at home. You positive actions and sweet attitude will go farther than what others have said.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!