This sucks man.

What else do you need to know about this situation?

You will need to start removing yourself from this drama.

Detach.

Protect youself legally, finacially and especially emotionally.

You will not be able to save yourself or your M when you are in the midst of this schidt.

Read what I posted to you again.

You have some thinking to do and some decisions to make.

Start focusing on what YOU want NOT what she is doing.

Take care of yourself. That is not by obsessing about what is going on with her.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am