Thanks Grit - some very good advice and things to think about. I will give that a lot of consideration. A LOT.
You're right, Lance, no matter what - if I'm ever going to be in ANY relationship I have to face many things.
I think I am pretty good and detached. I don't feel the hurt right now. That may seem awfully quick being that I didn't learn of the PA until last week, but deep down I knew. Finding out just made the detachment easier. That's the thing - to "undetach" and reconcile means pain. I imagine that to get back into a relationship H means undetaching...
Am I ready? Well, we all go into this kicking and screaming. I'm ready for tomorrow, and that's all I know for now: one day at a time!
