You know, I am getting a little annoyed with this super slow email exchange between City Guy and I.
Dont rush it grasshopper.
Time is relative.
I've been chatting and cooresponding with a nice lady who works just a few blocks from me since July 2009. I may ask her out again as I think she is at a new stage in life.
It is hard to get the stars to line up. When the moment is right, it will happen.
Learn to enjoy things on your own much more. Then there is not chance of codependency that can cause one to choose badly.