Well I did it. Its Friday and we talked briefly. I told her its best we don't talk anymore and she of course said fine. Said she would talk after she see's Co. I just said goodbye! Time for reality to sink in. I will file in Nov but start calling L Monday. Gonna ask her to sign over house to me and get her own heatlh insuarnace and car. Going dark now. Wish me luck!
you do know you will eventually have to discuss some things, whatever those things may be
Yes I do. Those things being our D. She has to sign over the house she stuck me with and I'm struggling to pay for. There is nothing else really. We had a prenup, we share no accounts. I gave her my gun for safety but will get that back. She is pissed right now that I took away her toy mouse. I wonder when things will start to sink in or if they even will?
Have not heard a word since I dropped the bomb. She was really pissed and I'm sure hooked up with OG and drank her face off all weekend. Was this the right thing to do? I also joined an online dating service as my job does not present any Ops to meet women.. Ughh
Have not heard a word since I dropped the bomb. She was really pissed and I'm sure hooked up with OG and drank her face off all weekend. Was this the right thing to do? I also joined an online dating service as my job does not present any Ops to meet women.. Ughh
So it's hard to not be thinking about what might be going on. And during this time, you feel that dating is an effective choice in making the changes to yourself.
Arnie and PH, I do not plan on dating. I just wanted to feel like I have some control over things. I am not into this at all. I feel I have made a mistake but I have to stick with the game plan. I am trying to forget, trying to act "as if". I can't get her off my brain. She is a bears fan and they lost. for some reason I took some pleasure in that. Gotta stay strong!!
Keeping her on your brain will result in two things, I guarantee you; the first is that you'll go crazy. The second is that you will push her away for good because your actions will be driven by your obsession.
You have to GAL. Not to win her back, not to impress her, not to make her think she'd be crazy NOT to be with you. But because you've lost yourself in her, and you're going to unravel.
Trust me, you'll need to find yourself eventually, because she'll leave you and then you won't be able to define yourself by your relationship with her. So better to do it now than wait weeks, months, or years.
We're taught all these really silly things about love; love conquers all, love is patient, love is kind, love never fails. Love should be like magic, like arrows through the heart. All these romantic ideals that wordsmiths have used for years to sell books! And songs! And movies!
But it's rare that we're told to love ourselves. Especially love ourselves FIRST. It doesn't mean you have to be perfect; it just means you have to love who you are, what you stand for, what you value. What your N.U.T.s are.
Take a deep breath. Don't post about her or what she does. Change your channel. Write down what you like about yourself. Give yourself 30 minutes. Right down everything, no matter how trivial.
Then write down everything you'd like to change. But now you only have 5 minutes for this second list.
Read both. Keep both handy for when she enters your mind. Then re-read the lists.
