Help, Help, Help I am Desperate!!!!!!!!

[sandi2]

I believe about the worst thing you could have told your W was to go out and get you back. But, it can't be taken back and now she is paying you back, big time.

She's allowed resentment to practically destroy her soul. She's had all sorts of feelings to deal with over the past five years, and now she's in over her head. There will have to be a lot of healing on both sides and it won't happen over-night.

IS this going to be a long process to where she calls me and asks how am I doing.

Probably. A lot of it depends on how much she she doesn't want to lose you, and if she believes she's in danger of really losing you.

IS there anyone that she would listen to, I mean someone that could tell her she is tearing up the family.

I believe the WAW listens to only those who support her A and leaving the H. She will not listen to friends or family who try to get her to see the wrong she's doing. She will point the finger at all the wrong you've done and she "deserves" to be happy.

Is she not showing them a bad example of what not to do. She always had high morals and values and wanted to pass them on to the children. Now it seems like she does not care. Is she truly confused.

First of all, you will drive yourself nuts by wondering why she is not acting like the woman you M. You have to deal with this as though she is a total stranger b/c she's nothing like she once was. All morals have been tossed, and even though she loves her kids, she's not thinking what is damaging them, all she's thinking about is HERSELF. In my case, my mind really was not functioning well. Sometimes I thought I was going crazy. I didn't even recognize myself.

She will not begin to find herself as long as she's in the A.

If and when we can reconcile who has the more power her or m

Not sure what you mean.

She told me that she really did not forgive me for my A. (which I do not believe for a minute, I think it was just thrown in there to make her case look good).

Of course she doesn't forgive you. That is the root to all that's happened. That, plus some other emotional problems thrown in.

Is my W really at this point willing to give up everything and put all of us in a devastating place

Yes! Get your head out of denial and believe it!