Bobby sorry to tell you this but what you wrote is so full of expectations.

You do have a lot work to do.
I am not sure that you have learned about MLC yet.

I am sure she is not ready to come back yet, and if she does come back she may not be ready to work on your marriage.

You are correct that she is depressed but she is not going to SNAP out of this.

One thing I am sure of is that until you do learn the life's lessons, you will continue to repeat them until you do "get it".

Please listen to what Eric has been saying to you.
We really do have your best interest in mind.