Thanks, Vulcanized, for the support! Sorry you are in this place as well.
I want to clarify what I was saying about pain: It isn't that I think a new marriage with H would have to be pain. It's that I know the recovery process would involve me going back to a place of pain. I know that in practical matters...like intimacy... it will stir up feelings that are painful. In order for me to ccare about this marriage again it means opening my feelings back up to that vunerable place of hurt. Do I know I have to go through that regardless, for my own healing? Yes, of course. BUT...it's a whole new level of pain to un-detach and open my heart to him fully again.
